At the core of each of us lies a sentence. The sentence is a string of words that gives us freedom, or it’s a string of words that implies a verdict, a “sentence.”

In other words, you can serve a life sentence with your life sentence.

A sentence can permeate your thoughts, language, emotions, and decisions. By overcoming limiting sentences, we give ourselves the keys to walk out of the cells that keep us from our potential.

While coaching over the last five years, some sentences held by clients have surfaced:

  • Am I cut out for this?
  • Am I enough?
  • Who am I (to be here, or to do this)?
  • Can I fix this?
  • Do I have what it takes?
  • Is there something wrong with me?

 

Pause here and reflect.

Does one resonate with you?

Which one?

 

The deepest doubt written in our hearts and minds can come into light when we acknowledge what it is. The light makes it observable, and then something can be done with it besides hide it shamefully in the dark.

In the dark, options are limited.

In the light, options become broader:

  1. Think differently.
  2. Speak authentically.
  3. Feel peace.
  4. Make decisions consciously.

Grow into your fullest potential.

I love Brené Brown’s “Square Squad” concept in her book Daring to Lead: On a one-by-one piece of paper, write down the names of people whose opinion of you matter.

“The people on your list should be the people who love you not despite your vulnerability and imperfections, but because of them,” she writes.

There might be one. There might be three. The point she makes is that it’s only going to be a few.

When your sentence has become clear, share it with someone in your Square Squad––someone who knows you, loves you, and fully supports you––and then ask:

  • Where do you see this sentence show up in my life?
  • What behaviors do you see when I’m living my sentence?
  • Would you help me rewrite that sentence so I don’t have to serve this life sentence anymore?

I’ve noticed different sentences show up in different stages in my own life. The most recent––Is there something wrong with me?––created self-doubt. It sentenced me to a season of protecting versus connecting.

The jail break for me was when a trusted friend in my square squad said, “There is so much right with you. Sit down. Let’s make a list.”

Happy jail-breaking, friends. You’ve served your sentence long enough.


Rachel is a Certified Coach with a Masters Degree in Counseling. She coaches professionals through important decisions so their minds are clear to move forward in life and in business. Email Rachel or drop a note in the comments.

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