Woah, wait. What?
Google tells me that romance is a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love. So, yes, I want to begin an office romance. And while I’m at, I’m going to begin a home, wellness center, grocery store, bank and traffic romance, too.
Don Miguel Ruiz, in his book The Voice of Knowledge, says, “How do you know when you’ve mastered love? When the story you tell is an on-going romance.”
At some point it seems romance for life begins to fade somewhere between paying utility bills and heath insurance premiums. It can fade after too many political debates, a mind-numbing television show (or five), or being disappointed in the image in your mirror.
Maybe it fades with the difficulty of marriage or child-rearing, or working 40 hours a week at a job that just pays the bills.
If you’ve recognized a fading or dullness in your life experience, an on-going romance might be in order.
Here are two simple steps to begin a romance:
Step One: Redefine romance.
I’ve watched many women friends put pressure and expectation on their husbands for one or two days a year to offer some sort of romantic gesture, and then witnessed both parties become sorely disappointed. Romance in the traditional sense is not what this blog is about. It is not doting on one another like the movies portray. Does that kind of romance exist? Certainly. But attaching to that kind requires someone outside of yourself to meet Hollywood-production expectations. I’m not referencing that here.
Romance, in the context of this blog, is about observing with wonder and awe and excitement about the goodness of breathing – about the awesomeness of aliveness.
How does that definition suit you?
Step Two: Watch for it…Wait for it…
A romance with life entails the mystery of “coincidence”. It’s a random call on your birthday, running into a long-lost friend you didn’t expect to see, being deeply moved by a piece of music you’d never heard like that before. Life will continually love you if you’re watching for it.
An on-going romance with life means surrendering with excitement to what is with openness that what misses me is not meant for me and what’s meant for me will not miss me. It’s enjoying people for who they are and circumstances for what they are.
Is life really supposed to feel this good?
You guys, it just is. And if it isn’t, then we’ve missed the point.
I cannot believe that you and I are here to be miserable. I’d rather have a romance with life than a sour, meaningless, or annoying relationship with it. Wouldn’t you?
How is life romancing you? Where have you ignored it’s wooing?
What would have to happen on your part to begin an on-going romance today?
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