“You become the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

So look around. Who are the top five in your daily life?

When I went to college, I hit the ground running…well actually, it was passing, hitting and blocking. I was part of a volleyball team. A group. A collective unity. If I was standing on the court, I could look around and see five teammates at any given time.

Anyone who has played sports knows how vibes within a team affect the outcome. And perhaps the vibes among a team can far outweigh the numbers on a scoreboard, leaving winning and losing an illusionary frame of reference.

I can’t tell you the scores of specific games or an overall career wins and losses record, but I can tell you how much I enjoyed each particular year by the vibe I remember feeling. The experience of being in that group infused me with purpose, connection, and motivation.

Playing sports offers a multitude of life lessons. For one, relationships become the crux of the “game”.

In the game of life, you can choose who you want on your team!

Why not build an anabolic team? One that inspires, motivates, supports, and shares in your vision of who you believe you are and how you believe the world works?

Better yet, why not include those who will lovingly challenge those beliefs if it’s obvious they’re not serving you?

Here are three considerations while choosing who you want on your team:

  1. Be aware of your own vibes.radiate

Energy attracts like energy. If you keep finding yourself feeling drained or surrounded by complaining or feeling held back, be aware of how you’re contributing to it. Make a shift in your own internal perception of yourself and others, and you’ll attract people with the same contagious energy who want to join your team.

  1. Be aware of the criteria you’re using to evaluate for try-outs.

Are you basing the cuts for your team on external factors or internal values? “Our location icriterias convenient for friendship. They’re attractive. They make a lot of money and have a lot of accolades.” OR “I feel loved, empowered, and appreciated! They inspire and challenge me!”

The measurement with which you use will come back to you. If you want energetic, honest, and loving vibes, look past the external and pay attention to the way a person processes life.

It’s the difference between someone who participates and enjoys the game, and one who sits in the stands complaining about the way others are playing.

If a player needs to be cut from your team, it doesn’t mean they stop existing, it just means you give them a different role.

3. How much time are you allowing key players in the game?

Be intentional about your contacts and connections. Carve out a few hours a week or a month to reconnect, repurpose, and re-motivate. It’s also highly likely you’re a key player for your own key players.

When your team is in place, the game flows with so much more ease and enjoyment.

And whatever the scoreboard says at the end of each match, you’ll know you’ve already “won”.

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– Rachel Thalmann


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