Embrace the Suck: Uncertain Times Call for Conscious Leadership

You’ve been there––in the middle of a parenting moment and you hear words come out of your mouth that feel like you’ve hit a goldmine.

“Pain isn’t always bad. Embrace it, bud.”

Where did that come from? you wonder. I don’t know, but it was golden.

I recently struck it rich to realize (again) that pain is inevitable. It’s suffering that’s optional. (more…)

What is the Cost of Letting Your Guard Down?

I’ve been working with people who feel guarded. They don’t want to let down their walls because it feels too vulnerable, and let’s face it, it’s a given that most of us like protection from rejection and discomfort.

But I wonder, what is the cost?

Recently I accompanied my colleague to provide training to an organization of about 40. In the five years I’ve been part of our team, I haven’t been in the front of a room. I’m quite comfortable at the back of the room, behind my computer writing, or coaching one-on-one.

During the training, employees participate in an activity in which they fill in the blank, “I’m not (blank) enough,” and write it on a card. They come face-to-face with a limiting belief.
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Harvard vs Yale: Coaching makes a Difference

In 1875, Harvard and Yale played one of the first American rules football games. At that time, Yale hired a coach. Harvard did not. Over the next three decades, Harvard only won four times.

What happened next?

Harvard hired a coach.

Over time, coaching became the way sports works––to the point of assigning the value of a coach at upwards of 6 million dollars today.

If the value of having a coach increases the potential of sports teams, does that value of increasing potential transfer into other fields?
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Your Fullest Potential is One Sentence Away

At the core of each of us lies a sentence. The sentence is a string of words that gives us freedom, or it’s a string of words that implies a verdict, a “sentence.”

In other words, you can serve a life sentence with your life sentence.

A sentence can permeate your thoughts, language, emotions, and decisions. By overcoming limiting sentences, we give ourselves the keys to walk out of the cells that keep us from our potential.

While coaching over the last five years, some sentences held by clients have surfaced: (more…)

“How do I not feel jealous or upset when others are succeeding?”

Sometimes I get emails with great questions! I thought I’d share a recent one.

(Side note: We teach 7 Levels of Energy Leadership. It’s a way for organizations to have containers and common language for what they’re experiencing as individuals and as a culture. Using “level 2, 5, and 6” in the following email exchange is a reference to those 7 Levels).

Dear Rachel,

How do you get to that level (6?) of win-win? Meaning how do you not feel jealous or upset when others are succeeding?

Thanks, Cat (more…)