Most people measure success by what they do in comparison to others.
Maybe she seems to spend more time at home with her kids, so that makes her a successful mom. Maybe so-and-so is more outgoing, so that makes him a successful salesman. Maybe I make more money than so-and-so, so I consider myself more successful.
Instead of allowing others to hold your measuring stick, measure your own success by what you do with the ability God gave you. (more…)
I think we should stop asking “how are you” unless we’re actually interested.
Think about it – how often is it used without ever really sticking around in the conversation long enough to fully know how someone truly is?
This phrase keeps us playing roles. One role, for example, is “I’m friendly and polite,” and the other role is “I won’t expose what I’m really thinking or feeling inside.” Most of us have really only learned how to make nice with one another – keeping our happy masks on.
It makes sense. For one, the discomfort of hearing someone’s sad or angry or dramatic story makes the generic “how are you” role comfortable. For two, it’s just not that socially acceptable to really be that vulnerable with people. Right? (more…)