So you’ve learned some coaching skills. Now what? If you’re not really exercising new skills, your people (and yourself) are likely still in the same boat as before.
According to Michael Bungay Stanier in his book The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever, there are three reasons why developing your coaching habit didn’t stick.
First, maybe the training didn’t engage you.
You felt bored, over or under stimulated, or didn’t see it meshing with the reality of your busy work life. (more…)
The idea of being your own champion is noble, but what about having another encouraging and stimulating person in your corner?
A champion lives to point out the greatest in others. They genuinely care for the success, well-being, and happiness of those around them. They have no motive other than to do what they were made to do – root for others! For you!
“I believe in you!” they declare.
“I know your greatest qualities, let me share them with you!” they proclaim.
“You have what it takes!” they say.
The fears we don’t face become our limits.
Raise your hand if the fear of what others think, the fear of failure, the fear of rejection, or the fear of letting someone down or not being enough has ever stopped you.
(insert cricket chirp)
Fear is a theme. Deep inside everyone I have worked with, there is a fear of some sort. (more…)
Want a quick fix to all your problems? Ask yourself this question:
How willing am I?
This answer to this question is the awareness you’ll need to move beyond your “problems” into solution-oriented living.
How willing am I to see this situation differently?
How willing am I to consider another point of view? Am I willing to heal? To move on? To fail? How willing am I to truly succeed?
In a 75 year study, the longest study on happiness currently led by Robert Waldinger, the bottom line that keeps us happiest and healthiest the longest is this: good relationships.
The study began with men in their teens and lasted into their 80s and extended beyond to their families. By age 50, those who were most satisfied in their relationships were the healthiest by age 80. Cholesterol levels weren’t the determining factor. Wealth was not the determining factor. Nor was fame or working harder.
The bottom line? Mutually secure relationships.
It’s not the number of friendships that are linked to happiness; it’s the quality of the close relationships that matter.