Relationships require freedom to ebb and flow, and the best relationships have partners who know when being too positive will jam up the flow.
“How can being positive ruin anything?” you might be wondering.
If there’s too much positivity, without empathy, it can come across insensitive with an unwillingness to genuinely care. In the presence of empathy––according to Brene´ Brown––painful feelings don’t have a chance to survive.
So what does toxic positivity sound like? (more…)
You’re watching it happen––your tween is spending more time with friends, which means you’re losing time and attention to influence and mold your mini-me for their best interest.
Breath easy, mom and dad, you’re still making an impact on your adolescent, but it will take some conscious parenting on your part to keep the door of healthy communication open between the two you.
All in the name of love, parents can slip into two modes of communicating with kids that end up putting a wedge in the relationship.
Here are two roles to watch out for when communicating with your children:
I was recently asked about my religious affiliation during an interview by a potential client.
The question stunned me for a second, and I didn’t know how to respond. For me, religious affiliation is irrelevant in coaching.
What I’ve learned over the past four years is that as soon as a person throws out a word to identify “what I am,” preconceived ideas flourish and then labeling, categorizing and compartmentalizing happens in a split second.
Because of that observation, I based my coaching practice on being as open and impersonal as possible.
Here’s why… (more…)
What is the last thing your loving and compassionate inner voice has spoken to you?
What? Wait. You mean there’s an inner voice that does more than point out all the ways I’m not stacking up?
That’s exactly what I’m saying. It’s very loving, in fact. It doesn’t say things to produce counterfeit confidence to puff us up to project an image, and it doesn’t say things that are harsh either.
Hearing your loving and compassionate inner voice is an essential practice for developing one of the most important communication skills: LISTENING. (more…)
You can’t fake compassion.
I mean, you can, but people feel it when you do. Disingenuous concern comes across as canned.
If meaningful connection and communication are to happen, empathy and compassion have to be real. “Me” and “You” become “We” and “Us”.
In his book Mindsight, Dr Siegel states that “feeling felt” is essential early in life as children gain insight into the vast inner sea inside them, but throughout life we continue to need such connections for a sense of vitality and wellbeing.
Vitality and wellbeing come with deep connections.
In a deeply divisive world today, bringing human beings closer to one another is vital.
There are crucial steps to increasing empathy. (more…)