“How do I not feel jealous or upset when others are succeeding?”

Sometimes I get emails with great questions! I thought I’d share a recent one.

(Side note: We teach 7 Levels of Energy Leadership. It’s a way for organizations to have containers and common language for what they’re experiencing as individuals and as a culture. Using “level 2, 5, and 6” in the following email exchange is a reference to those 7 Levels).

Dear Rachel,

How do you get to that level (6?) of win-win? Meaning how do you not feel jealous or upset when others are succeeding?

Thanks, Cat (more…)

Thinking too much About What People are Thinking affects Decision-Making

You’ve probably gone through a time when you became preoccupied with thinking about how others are thinking about you.

When that happens, many of us don’t realize how decision-making is affected. Adaptive behaviors show up while trying to project or protect reputation, and making decisions are made through a couple of simple filters: “I’m okay” and “I’m not okay”.

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Handling Emotional Crises during the Holidays








Although “seasons greetings” and “happy holidays” are buzzing right now, this time of year can feel subpar for many.

Desires are at an all time high and department stores don’t miss a beat feeding you full of reasons to buy this or that. The glamour of new purchases flirts with emotion, attaching a bigger-than-life fantasy that somehow buying something will magically lead to a greater state of happiness and satisfaction.

But you and I both know about the disappointment that comes after we’ve chased that thing and secured it. (more…)

Strengthen Relationships––Avoid These Two Damaging Parent Roles








You’re watching it happen––your tween is spending more time with friends, which means you’re losing time and attention to influence and mold your mini-me for their best interest.

Breath easy, mom and dad, you’re still making an impact on your adolescent, but it will take some conscious parenting on your part to keep the door of healthy communication open between the two you.

All in the name of love, parents can slip into two modes of communicating with kids that end up putting a wedge in the relationship.

Here are two roles to watch out for when communicating with your children:

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