Your mind is constantly telling a story with or without your permission. It narrates what it sees and begins to label and file its interpretations. The efficiency of this amazing machine is what gives human beings creative and critical thinking – we can use this to our advantage when we are mindful and engaged, but most of the time our brains function without our conscious knowledge.
When there is missing data, our brains automatically fill in the gaps.
What do you think you need from others? Where do you see lack?
When you pinpoint this “thing”, you’ll find your strength in leadership.
I used to judge people who talked a lot. When extroverts began to talk, I’d stop listening. I wanted to hear from people who were quieter, who in my opinion demanded less attention, whose fewer words held more weight.
What I discovered is that I wanted to know someone who could really listen and stay engaged and reflect what I was saying – because from my discerning view, most were too busy making noise to really listen. (more…)
As a human being, your brain is constantly judging situations and people as good or bad, right or wrong, urgent or non-urgent, etc. It’s doing its job – securing surroundings and insuring survival.
However, probably 90% of our judgment doesn’t require such life-sustaining discernment anymore.
Most of us are judging by way of opinions, rather than by way of survival. Instead of judging surroundings for predators, we’re judging surroundings for comparison. We’ve exchanged survival for superficial, and our brain is running the show: (more…)
While driving by a prison last week, I gawked at a few men digging a new grave. Two other gravestones nearby marked newly tossed mounds of dirt.
“Hm. People die as prisoners…” I’d never really contemplated it before.
Quickly I recognized two kinds of captivity: physical and mental.
There are people who are not physically living in a prison, yet they’ll die as prisoners. Their gravestones won’t be located on the corner of the prison grounds, but they’ll be buried as a person who was held captive, nonetheless.
The mind can be a prison guard. It can run us, like automatons, if we let it. We’ll just go through the motions in life, wearing our orange jumpsuits, never really stopping to consider what the meaning truly is behind those motions. (more…)