How Floating in a Sensory Deprivation Tank Made Me Better at My Job

I heard a guy give a testimony once about how he was very vanilla – meaning he didn’t have a major life event he overcame or an inspiring testimony of total transformation. He was just a guy who went through life paying attention.

I connected with his message.

I’ve spent a lot of life just paying attention.

Because of that attention, I found myself naturally leading people to the quiet place beside still waters because I was not in perpetual motion.

As a leadership coach, my biggest asset is the ability to listen, acknowledge and understand what’s being (and not being) said, and reflect back how that impacts a leader and those he or she leads.

The less distraction I experience from my own thoughts, the more effective I become. Thus, the impact my clients experience is greater – 9 times out of 10 calling our work together “life-changing”. (more…)

5 Ways Marriage can Affect all Your Relationships

This month marks 13 years of marriage for my husband and me. Oh, and I think it’s important to point out we’re not soul mates.

My mom told me once “the one” was not out there somewhere. “There are lots of people we’re compatible with, and we get to decide which one we want to spend the rest of our life with,” she said.

Her short quip grounded me that searching for someone outside myself to share a you-complete-me-Jerry-McGuire-moment would just keep me looking for my other half.

And I want to be whole. (more…)

Trying to Save the World can be Exhausting

I used to compromise my time, energy and emotional wellbeing on anyone in my world who vocalized they were in need. I feel deeply. I want to understand others. And I believed I could be the answer, or at the very least provide the answer, for everyone who needed saving.

Thankfully I quit.

At first it felt selfish to not take on the burdens of others and self-preserve, but over time I’ve learned that for the benefit of myself and those I do life with, it’s essential to create a win-win or just step away from the game. (more…)

Do You Have the Most Important Communication Skill?

What is the last thing your loving and compassionate inner voice has spoken to you?

What? Wait. You mean there’s an inner voice that does more than point out all the ways I’m not stacking up?

That’s exactly what I’m saying. It’s very loving, in fact. It doesn’t say things to produce counterfeit confidence to puff us up to project an image, and it doesn’t say things that are harsh either.

Hearing your loving and compassionate inner voice is an essential practice for developing one of the most important communication skills: LISTENING. (more…)