I hired someone to clean my house. Other than scheduling regular massages, this is the second best thing I’ve done for myself in the last three months.
Shame set up camp as the message that “I should be able keep up with everything and if I can’t, I’m somehow less of a mother, wife, or woman” condemned me.
And then it reared up again when I sought out help.
And now I’m OVER it!!!
Coming home to clean floors, smudge-free glass, and sparkly bathroom fixtures fills me with gratitude and peace! And I love paying another mom—who has a better knack at deep cleaning than me—to do it!
Win-win.
If you haven’t given yourself permission, it’s ok to build things into your life that help you, and that create happiness. It’s not selfish. You are not inept. It doesn’t make you less of a mom, wife, or person!
No shame.
My only regret? That I didn’t do this sooner.
❤️
Reflect: What’s one of the best things you’ve done for yourself? What keeps you from doing more?
Rachel is a Certified Professional Coach with a Masters Degree in Counseling. She coaches professionals through important decisions and relationships so their minds are clear to move forward in life and in business.
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I should get someone to come and clean our too. I should also schedule regular massages also. Lots of things for self care would be nice. Good for you.
What’s your ideal self-care, Dinelle? xoxo
The timing of this post is crazy right!! I just, for the first time ever, had my house cleaned, beginning of school year, on August 26! I loved it, YAY! I shamed myself, Yuck! My husband who was against the cleaning…LOVED IT Double!! The perfectionist in me wants to be perfect. Perfect folks don’t ask for help but they might drown! Thanks for the support in saying, “shut up” to the shamer in me!!
“Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It’s the fear that we’re not good enough.” Brenne Brown
Thanks for sharing the quote! It’s “perfect”! 🙂 🙂