Your Fullest Potential is One Sentence Away

At the core of each of us lies a sentence. The sentence is a string of words that gives us freedom, or it’s a string of words that implies a verdict, a “sentence.”

In other words, you can serve a life sentence with your life sentence.

A sentence can permeate your thoughts, language, emotions, and decisions. By overcoming limiting sentences, we give ourselves the keys to walk out of the cells that keep us from our potential.

While coaching over the last five years, some sentences held by clients have surfaced: (more…)

How to Innocently get in Your Own Way

Our brains are designed to self-preserve. When commuting down a busy highway and a semi-truck pulls into our lane, we don’t have time to consider, “OK, I’m going to either slam on my brakes or swerve here…which would be most appropriate?” Our brains automatically make the decision and put our bodies into action. Thank goodness!

In a life-threatening situation, we want our limbic system to kick in, to “save me”!

However, the hang-up of this perfectly designed process shows up in situations or relationships that are not necessarily life-threatening––when adrenaline pours into the body similar to the semi-truck experience, creating stress without resolution over long periods of time. (more…)

When You Feel as if You’ve Lost Your Way

I’m experiencing a pervasive inadequacy. This was the second line I wrote in an SOS email to a friend.

Are professionals supposed to confess stuff like this on a public blog? It’s risky, my ego tells me, but I feel I’m also risking something more dangerous if I don’t­–a belief that when looking at the life of someone else, it always appears good, or at the very least, somehow better than yours. (more…)

What part does Spirituality play in Professional Development?

I was recently asked about my religious affiliation during an interview by a potential client.

The question stunned me for a second, and I didn’t know how to respond. For me, religious affiliation is irrelevant in coaching.

What I’ve learned over the past four years is that as soon as a person throws out a word to identify “what I am,” preconceived ideas flourish and then labeling, categorizing and compartmentalizing happens in a split second.

Because of that observation, I based my coaching practice on being as open and impersonal as possible.

Here’s why… (more…)

The Nature of Confidence

Clinging to what is good and resisting what is bad is a guaranteed rollercoaster ride.

Trying to control people or circumstances to feel secure leads to more insecurity because confidence is not an external matter. As counterintuitive as it may seem, relinquishing the need for control unveils confidence.

Consider this: (more…)