Can you trust the process?

I stole it.

It was a sign dangling by a single pushpin to a bulletin board outside a classroom in college. Even though stealing wasn’t even close to my normal activity, I *knew* that sign was for me.

It portrayed a giant footprint that read, “You know it’s the hand of God when you end up where you did not plan on going.”

Walking those halls in 2000, I wondered how I got there. To that college. In that town. With that athletic scholarship. How did this happen? It was so good.

I remembered that sign again in 2014 when I trudged slowly to the front of the church to speak to family and friends gathered for my dad’s funeral. It was difficult. And it was also good.

It led me to the path of coaching. (more…)

31 Days of Intention: Free Download

31 Days of Intention: Free Download

Instead of sending Christmas cards this year, I created a month of inquisitive questions.
 
And I want you to have them.
 
My mental health increased drastically in November when I began a month of daily gratitude check-ins with four friends through the MarcoPolo app.
 
We didn’t want to stop our daily habit, so in December we followed an advent calendar. Then I decided January would be the perfect month to set intentions for the new year, so I created our next calendar of 31 daily intentional, reflective questions.
 
If you could use a boost for the start of 2021 (or if you just enjoy contemplating reflective questions), please enjoy this gift! Use it for your own personal reflection, or ask friends or colleagues to join in.
 
I’m thankful you continue to stay connected, read, and share this blog with others. Here’s to an intentional January 2021!

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5 Strategies to Level Up as a Leader in 2021

5 Strategies to Level Up as a Leader in 2021

The start of a new year is a perfect transition to remember who you are, rediscover your unique place in life, and reconnect with both of those. Without it, dreams stay unrealized, potential goes unused, and you’re uninspired without clarity of what makes you come alive.

A stressful or unfulfilled 2020 will lead right into a stressful or unfulfilled 2021, unless…

Here are five strategies to set you up for success. (more…)

How to Be Happy During HARD Days

How to Be Happy During HARD Days

My best friend introduced me to the app Marco Polo which has been a game changer for my mental wellbeing. For the month of November, she and I––along with two other friends––connected every morning and followed a gratitude guide to share something specific in our lives.

This single daily intention met a need for connection, support, and belonging. I have felt the difference.

Because of this connection, we’re all in a better place to self-actualize, increasing the feeling that we’re really “living.” For me, I have purpose for the day, if only to check in and love each other.

Dr. Henry Cloud shares a useful story: (more…)

4 Tips to Ditch the Drama on Social Media

4 Tips to Ditch the Drama on Social Media

Social media can be a breeding ground for drama, creating hurt, anger, and divisive conflict in relationships. Stephen Karpman, in his drama triangle, defines three actors in drama that breed destructive communication habits.

In the simplest form:

  • There are oppressors, or persecutors: “You idiots. You are to blame. I know more than you.”
  • There are rescuers: “Here, let me help you. I know what’s best for you.” 
  • And there are victims: “Life is hard. This isn’t fair.” (complaining or venting)

The dynamics of this triangle create relationships that develop codependency (you know what’s right for me), compliance (sure, whatever you say), or resistance (get out of my face!).

When these actors in the drama show up, problems are perpetuated instead of solved. 

To stay out of social media drama, consider these four tips: (more…)

Stop framing 2020 as a Year from Hell

Stop framing 2020 as a Year from Hell

From 1967-1974, one of the highest ranking officers in the Navy, Admiral John Stockdale, was taken captive and held prisoner during the Vietnam War. During his solitary confinement, among other things, he endured torture over twenty times.

Stockdale found a way to balance the reality of his situation by turning his pain into purpose. He shared with interviewer, Jim Collins, that not only did he not lose faith he would get out, but he planned to turn his time as a prisoner of war as the defining time of his life.

And even more, he wanted to, in retrospect, not trade the experience.

When you imagine looking back to 2020 in five years, have you framed this year as one of value? (more…)