How to Innocently get in Your Own Way

Our brains are designed to self-preserve. When commuting down a busy highway and a semi-truck pulls into our lane, we don’t have time to consider, “OK, I’m going to either slam on my brakes or swerve here…which would be most appropriate?” Our brains automatically make the decision and put our bodies into action. Thank goodness!

In a life-threatening situation, we want our limbic system to kick in, to “save me”!

However, the hang-up of this perfectly designed process shows up in situations or relationships that are not necessarily life-threatening––when adrenaline pours into the body similar to the semi-truck experience, creating stress without resolution over long periods of time. (more…)

3 Things You Need to Know that Hide Potential

When asked how he carved his infamous statue of David, Michelangelo replied, “I just chipped away what wasn’t David.”

In the business of personal coaching, group coaching, and culture audits, our goal is similar: to help individuals and groups chip away what gets in the way of inherent possibility.

“There was time before you felt (insert limiting belief here),” I tell clients. “The You from that time is still inside.”

Then we proceed with the process of chipping marble–of chipping thinking, feeling, and doing. (more…)

You matter. You make a difference. Be at peace and relaxed.

For the past several months, I’ve been working with a guy who “reconsolidates memories.” He explained to me that over the course of our lives our experiences become memories with emotion attached. Some emotions feel good and some don’t.

Because of these experiences (turned memories), you and I come to accept a set of beliefs. Some beliefs are freeing, and some beliefs are limiting. (more…)

What if “Adverse Childhood Experience” doesn’t fit?

Schools have been actively engaging in the conversation about the effects of trauma in childhood, and now Oprah is informing the nation. Awareness is rising. I’m thankful.

However, the thought that keeps creeping in my mind over the past couple of months has been what about the people who don’t meet the ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experience) criteria but still feel depressed or anxious?

What happened to them? If a childhood was “normal” and needs were easily met, why are they hurting? (more…)

5 Ways to Deal with your 700,000 Thoughts

People talk at 125-225 words per minute on average and can think 4x faster.

That means roughly having 500-900 thoughts per minute. So in one hour, the average person would have about 30,000-60,000 internal thoughts.

Woah.

If you like the math, in just an 8-hour workday that’s about 240,000-480,000 thoughts. All in your head. And that’s not including the ones that you actually turn into audible words or the ones that occur during the rest of your waking moments.

But have you ever really stopped to think about what you’re thinking about?

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How well are We Loving Each Other?

I’ve never worked for an organization that included a goal and measurable outcome of success by how well we loved each other.

But I think all organizations should have one.

Neuroscientist, Jill Bolte Taylor, woke up experiencing a stroke in 1996 and lost her ability to speak, read, talk, walk or remember her past within a span of four hours. Since she studied the brain, she gained incredible insight about how the two hemispheres function. (more…)