Strengthen Relationships––Avoid These Two Damaging Parent Roles

You’re watching it happen––your tween is spending more time with friends, which means you’re losing time and attention to influence and mold your mini-me for their best interest.

Breath easy, mom and dad, you’re still making an impact on your adolescent, but it will take some conscious parenting on your part to keep the door of healthy communication open between the two you.

All in the name of love, parents can slip into two modes of communicating with kids that end up putting a wedge in the relationship.

Here are two roles to watch out for when communicating with your children:

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The U.S. Marine Corps: The most Respected & Revered Fighting Force on Earth

Last week I flew to the west coast to attend a Marine graduation. Before that occasion, I knew little to nothing about the military. You know when you read something but your eyes just skim without making a connection?

From now on, the word Marine will forever stop me in my tracks.

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What I learned about honor, courage, and commitment in two days made me hold my own shoulders back, put my chest out a bit, and walk taller. We could all learn from these Leather Necks. These Devil Dogs. These Marines with a capital M. (more…)

The Awkward Stage Between Birth and Death

Humanity takes stiff-legged wobbly steps in the form of fleshy bodies and falls, scrapes its knees, gets back up, and keeps exploring.

Nobody has life figured out.

The most influential leaders in history were closest as they pointed in the direction of love, compassion and forgiveness and opened the eyes of humanity to the dignity of one other.

But as soon as they draw us closer together, we pull ourselves apart. (more…)

You Don’t See Babies in Therapy

Before humans think things about themselves – before we’re self conscious – we’re just conscious. In that state, all is well. There’s no separation being created through our stories and interpretations of events. Instinct and intuition guide and direct.

Think of babies. All is well until it’s not, and they make it known. This isn’t done not by conscious thought but by instinct, and they tell without words. (more…)

What if “Adverse Childhood Experience” doesn’t fit?

Schools have been actively engaging in the conversation about the effects of trauma in childhood, and now Oprah is informing the nation. Awareness is rising. I’m thankful.

However, the thought that keeps creeping in my mind over the past couple of months has been what about the people who don’t meet the ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experience) criteria but still feel depressed or anxious?

What happened to them? If a childhood was “normal” and needs were easily met, why are they hurting? (more…)