Five Words a Humble Person Needs to Know

Five Words a Humble Person Needs to Know

For a person conditioned to be humble, accepting praise is uncomfortable. It’s met with downward looks, fidgety hands or feet, and a quick change of subject.

I wasn’t that great. You’re just being nice.

I coach many people who cannot take a compliment. They feel discomfort, or somehow think they don’t deserve it. “Oh, it’s not me,” they’ll say. However, if something has gone wrong, they’ll be the first one to speak up and say, “It was me! ME!” (Or at least it must’ve been, right?) (more…)

How to Ruin a Relationship with Toxic Positivity

How to Ruin a Relationship with Toxic Positivity

Relationships require freedom to ebb and flow, and the best relationships have partners who know when being too positive will jam up the flow.

“How can being positive ruin anything?” you might be wondering.

If there’s too much positivity, without empathy, it can come across insensitive with an unwillingness to genuinely care. In the presence of empathy––according to Brene´ Brown––painful feelings don’t have a chance to survive.

So what does toxic positivity sound like? (more…)

Thinking too much About What People are Thinking affects Decision-Making

You’ve probably gone through a time when you became preoccupied with thinking about how others are thinking about you.

When that happens, many of us don’t realize how decision-making is affected. Adaptive behaviors show up while trying to project or protect reputation, and making decisions are made through a couple of simple filters: “I’m okay” and “I’m not okay”.

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Handling Emotional Crises during the Holidays








Although “seasons greetings” and “happy holidays” are buzzing right now, this time of year can feel subpar for many.

Desires are at an all time high and department stores don’t miss a beat feeding you full of reasons to buy this or that. The glamour of new purchases flirts with emotion, attaching a bigger-than-life fantasy that somehow buying something will magically lead to a greater state of happiness and satisfaction.

But you and I both know about the disappointment that comes after we’ve chased that thing and secured it. (more…)