3 Steps to Avoid Going Broke in a Quickly Changing World

After 18 years, my sister-in-law walked out of her drug-testing-athletes career forever. She along with others were terminated. No sports. No job.

Although she’s been jobless for three months, her attitude and outlook have been remarkable. 

It donned on me that with a practical plan and action steps, a person doesn’t have to be a victim of their circumstances.

I’m veering away from my typical blogs posts to share this example of being “at the effect of life” but choosing not to set up camp there.  Tension and stress are rising in the world, and feeling strapped for money adds to it. Here are three practical ways to use straps––the ole bootstraps––to move forward. (more…)

Embrace the Suck: Uncertain Times Call for Conscious Leadership

You’ve been there––in the middle of a parenting moment and you hear words come out of your mouth that feel like you’ve hit a goldmine.

“Pain isn’t always bad. Embrace it, bud.”

Where did that come from? you wonder. I don’t know, but it was golden.

I recently struck it rich to realize (again) that pain is inevitable. It’s suffering that’s optional. (more…)

The World is Changing; Be the Transition Team

I saw a post that resonated that I haven’t been able to shake: “The World is Changing and I’m on the Transition Team.”

I feel a calling to add energy into the world that is not laced with fear, contempt, or anxiousness. Do I feel those things? Yes. And I also feel gratitude, hope, and a desire to grow deeper in love and wisdom than ever, and I want to contribute energy in those ways. (more…)

I Hear You––You Just Haven’t Said it Yet

I don’t do podcasts. Or audio books. And rarely videos. Listening to a talking head, without engagement, feels like drinking from a firehose. 

I’ll buy a book and underline, highlight, and dog-ear as a way to interact and get personal with the information, but listening makes me feel too saturated. Stick a fork in me, as they say, I’m done. 

For me, this type of listening doesn’t create space.  (more…)

What is the Cost of Letting Your Guard Down?

I’ve been working with people who feel guarded. They don’t want to let down their walls because it feels too vulnerable, and let’s face it, it’s a given that most of us like protection from rejection and discomfort.

But I wonder, what is the cost?

Recently I accompanied my colleague to provide training to an organization of about 40. In the five years I’ve been part of our team, I haven’t been in the front of a room. I’m quite comfortable at the back of the room, behind my computer writing, or coaching one-on-one.

During the training, employees participate in an activity in which they fill in the blank, “I’m not (blank) enough,” and write it on a card. They come face-to-face with a limiting belief.
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One Simple Step to Increase Your Odds of Goal Follow-Through for 2020

2020 is a year begging for meaning––for using fresh eyes, with clear vision, to discern how and where to intentionally spend energy.

Having 20/20 vision means normal visual acuity, or sharpness of vision. It’s not superhuman vision like Superman who can look through walls, it’s simply seeing with clarity and in focus what is right there in front of you.

Clarity.

One word.

Sharpening our vision.

A simple way proven by neuroscience to achieve clarity (if that’s your goal) is to write it down. Neuroscience explains how the brain generates and reprocesses images when writing, so you’re 1.2 – 1.4 times more likely to achieve something than the next guy who hasn’t written it down. So if there’s one thing we can take away from Santa’s year-end practices, it’s list-making. (more…)

Harvard vs Yale: Coaching makes a Difference

In 1875, Harvard and Yale played one of the first American rules football games. At that time, Yale hired a coach. Harvard did not. Over the next three decades, Harvard only won four times.

What happened next?

Harvard hired a coach.

Over time, coaching became the way sports works––to the point of assigning the value of a coach at upwards of 6 million dollars today.

If the value of having a coach increases the potential of sports teams, does that value of increasing potential transfer into other fields?
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Your Fullest Potential is One Sentence Away

At the core of each of us lies a sentence. The sentence is a string of words that gives us freedom, or it’s a string of words that implies a verdict, a “sentence.”

In other words, you can serve a life sentence with your life sentence.

A sentence can permeate your thoughts, language, emotions, and decisions. By overcoming limiting sentences, we give ourselves the keys to walk out of the cells that keep us from our potential.

While coaching over the last five years, some sentences held by clients have surfaced: (more…)