Stop framing 2020 as a Year from Hell

Stop framing 2020 as a Year from Hell

From 1967-1974, one of the highest ranking officers in the Navy, Admiral John Stockdale, was taken captive and held prisoner during the Vietnam War. During his solitary confinement, among other things, he endured torture over twenty times.

Stockdale found a way to balance the reality of his situation by turning his pain into purpose. He shared with interviewer, Jim Collins, that not only did he not lose faith he would get out, but he planned to turn his time as a prisoner of war as the defining time of his life.

And even more, he wanted to, in retrospect, not trade the experience.

When you imagine looking back to 2020 in five years, have you framed this year as one of value? (more…)

Tired of Dying your Hair? Here’s a Toast to Going Gray!

Tired of Dying your Hair? Here’s a Toast to Going Gray!

For the last 12 years I’ve been dying my hair to cover up the gray that began to introduce itself when I was 30. Three to four times a year, I’d drop an average of a hundred bucks a visit to keep these natural roots hidden. So roughly over the last twelve years I figured I’ve spent about $5,000 on this service.

When the country shut down in March, I abruptly quit dying my hair, and after three months in, I wished I’d have done it twelve years sooner.

Here are four reasons why: (more…)

3 Steps to Avoid Going Broke in a Quickly Changing World








After 18 years, my sister-in-law walked out of her drug-testing-athletes career forever. She along with others were terminated. No sports. No job.

Although she’s been jobless for three months, her attitude and outlook have been remarkable. 

It donned on me that with a practical plan and action steps, a person doesn’t have to be a victim of their circumstances.

I’m veering away from my typical blogs posts to share this example of being “at the effect of life” but choosing not to set up camp there.  Tension and stress are rising in the world, and feeling strapped for money adds to it. Here are three practical ways to use straps––the ole bootstraps––to move forward. (more…)

Embrace the Suck: Uncertain Times Call for Conscious Leadership








You’ve been there––in the middle of a parenting moment and you hear words come out of your mouth that feel like you’ve hit a goldmine.

“Pain isn’t always bad. Embrace it, bud.”

Where did that come from? you wonder. I don’t know, but it was golden.

I recently struck it rich to realize (again) that pain is inevitable. It’s suffering that’s optional. (more…)

The World is Changing; Be the Transition Team








I saw a post that resonated that I haven’t been able to shake: “The World is Changing and I’m on the Transition Team.”

I feel a calling to add energy into the world that is not laced with fear, contempt, or anxiousness. Do I feel those things? Yes. And I also feel gratitude, hope, and a desire to grow deeper in love and wisdom than ever, and I want to contribute energy in those ways. (more…)

I Hear You––You Just Haven’t Said it Yet








I don’t do podcasts. Or audio books. And rarely videos. Listening to a talking head, without engagement, feels like drinking from a firehose. 

I’ll buy a book and underline, highlight, and dog-ear as a way to interact and get personal with the information, but listening makes me feel too saturated. Stick a fork in me, as they say, I’m done. 

For me, this type of listening doesn’t create space.  (more…)

What is the Cost of Letting Your Guard Down?








I’ve been working with people who feel guarded. They don’t want to let down their walls because it feels too vulnerable, and let’s face it, it’s a given that most of us like protection from rejection and discomfort.

But I wonder, what is the cost?

Recently I accompanied my colleague to provide training to an organization of about 40. In the five years I’ve been part of our team, I haven’t been in the front of a room. I’m quite comfortable at the back of the room, behind my computer writing, or coaching one-on-one.

During the training, employees participate in an activity in which they fill in the blank, “I’m not (blank) enough,” and write it on a card. They come face-to-face with a limiting belief.
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One Simple Step to Increase Your Odds of Goal Follow-Through for 2020








2020 is a year begging for meaning––for using fresh eyes, with clear vision, to discern how and where to intentionally spend energy.

Having 20/20 vision means normal visual acuity, or sharpness of vision. It’s not superhuman vision like Superman who can look through walls, it’s simply seeing with clarity and in focus what is right there in front of you.

Clarity.

One word.

Sharpening our vision.

A simple way proven by neuroscience to achieve clarity (if that’s your goal) is to write it down. Neuroscience explains how the brain generates and reprocesses images when writing, so you’re 1.2 – 1.4 times more likely to achieve something than the next guy who hasn’t written it down. So if there’s one thing we can take away from Santa’s year-end practices, it’s list-making. (more…)