The start of a new year is a perfect transition to remember who you are, rediscover your unique place in life, and reconnect with both of those. Without it, dreams stay unrealized, potential goes unused, and you’re uninspired without clarity of what makes you come alive.
A stressful or unfulfilled 2020 will lead right into a stressful or unfulfilled 2021, unless…
Here are five strategies to set you up for success. (more…)
My best friend introduced me to the app Marco Polo which has been a game changer for my mental wellbeing. For the month of November, she and I––along with two other friends––connected every morning and followed a gratitude guide to share something specific in our lives.
This single daily intention met a need for connection, support, and belonging. I have felt the difference.
Because of this connection, we’re all in a better place to self-actualize, increasing the feeling that we’re really “living.” For me, I have purpose for the day, if only to check in and love each other.
Dr. Henry Cloud shares a useful story: (more…)
Social media can be a breeding ground for drama, creating hurt, anger, and divisive conflict in relationships. Stephen Karpman, in his drama triangle, defines three actors in drama that breed destructive communication habits.
In the simplest form:
- There are oppressors, or persecutors: “You idiots. You are to blame. I know more than you.”
- There are rescuers: “Here, let me help you. I know what’s best for you.”
- And there are victims: “Life is hard. This isn’t fair.” (complaining or venting)
The dynamics of this triangle create relationships that develop codependency (you know what’s right for me), compliance (sure, whatever you say), or resistance (get out of my face!).
When these actors in the drama show up, problems are perpetuated instead of solved.
To stay out of social media drama, consider these four tips: (more…)
From 1967-1974, one of the highest ranking officers in the Navy, Admiral John Stockdale, was taken captive and held prisoner during the Vietnam War. During his solitary confinement, among other things, he endured torture over twenty times.
Stockdale found a way to balance the reality of his situation by turning his pain into purpose. He shared with interviewer, Jim Collins, that not only did he not lose faith he would get out, but he planned to turn his time as a prisoner of war as the defining time of his life.
And even more, he wanted to, in retrospect, not trade the experience.
When you imagine looking back to 2020 in five years, have you framed this year as one of value? (more…)
For the last 12 years I’ve been dying my hair to cover up the gray that began to introduce itself when I was 30. Three to four times a year, I’d drop an average of a hundred bucks a visit to keep these natural roots hidden. So roughly over the last twelve years I figured I’ve spent about $5,000 on this service.
When the country shut down in March, I abruptly quit dying my hair, and after three months in, I wished I’d have done it twelve years sooner.
Here are four reasons why: (more…)
Although she’s been jobless for three months, her attitude and outlook have been remarkable.
It donned on me that with a practical plan and action steps, a person doesn’t have to be a victim of their circumstances.
I’m veering away from my typical blogs posts to share this example of being “at the effect of life” but choosing not to set up camp there. Tension and stress are rising in the world, and feeling strapped for money adds to it. Here are three practical ways to use straps––the ole bootstraps––to move forward. (more…)
“Pain isn’t always bad. Embrace it, bud.”
Where did that come from? you wonder. I don’t know, but it was golden.
I recently struck it rich to realize (again) that pain is inevitable. It’s suffering that’s optional. (more…)