Building Silence into Your Schedule is Essential

In 1964 Simon & Garfunkel brought awareness to the sound of silence. In their musical rendition, it was the loudness of silence that caught their attention: no one dared disturb the sound of silence.

In 2017, however,  there is a bombardment of noise in which silence could now be a coveted answer.

Noise is perpetuating the inability to concentrate, create, and communicate in a way that promotes community. Everyone has a private opinion which can now be aired publically.

Why make time for silence? (more…)

How to make your Brain work for You

images-1You are not your brain.
When stress hits and you feel your body tense up and maybe a headache accompanies the tension, it’s a brain thing. Not a You thing.

When fear occurs and you feel your heart rate increase and your palms get cold and sweaty, it’s a brain thing. Not a You thing.

Ladies, when the limbic system in your brain releases hormones monthly and you experience irritability, sadness, foggy mind, or bouts of anxiety or insecurity, it’s a brain thing. Not a You thing. (more…)

Why your emotional Facebook posts are hurting you

images-2We can’t tell each other how to feel. It doesn’t work. It’s never worked. In fact, saying, “don’t feel that way” feels about as equally as harsh as a slap in the face.

Emotions feel legit.

But when your brain has been hijacked by the amygdala – a small center in your limbic system in charge of emotion – it’s time to get smart. When that tiny almond sized part of the brain is in control, energetic intelligence is no longer present.

You can recognize when energetic intelligence is lacking by knee-jerk reactions, feeling out-of-the-mind fury, or responding out of highly-charged emotion rather than logic.

Maybe you’ve seen a few of these posts on social media? Maybe you’ve posted some yourself… (more…)

Let Go of what Weighs You Down

images-1Twenty-five years ago, lifeguard certification required treading water for two minutes without the use of hands. I’m not sure if holding a brick while treading was a Red Cross requirement, but to the instructor I had, it was.

Along with treading with the brick, we also
submerged 12 feet to retrieve the brick from the bottom of the pool, bring it to the surface, and swim it safely to the side under 1 minute 40 seconds.

To a 15 year old at the time, the Lifeguard Brick Test was a thrilling challenge. To a more aged woman now, a brick in water is dead weight.

Metaphorically, many of us are carrying bricks, barely keeping our heads above water. We are kicking hard, exerting energy to keep this brick in our grasp. We’ve got to pass the test. We’ve got to prove we can do it all. But, damn, that brick is heavy. (more…)