How do you know “what’s best for kids”?

“We’re going to do what’s best for kids.” This cliché is often heard in education.

I began asking myself, “How do we know what’s best for kids?” How do I even know as a parent what’s best for my own kids? So when it struck me, I decided to add my voice to the whats-best-for-kids-bandwagon:

What’s best for kids is conscious adults.

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4 Steps to Reconcile a Strained Relationship

No matter whom I’ve coached, there is always one constant: at some point we talk about a relationship.

This makes sense – we’re wired for connection. So when a connection feels strained with a colleague, spouse, child, parent, or friend, it can hold our attention hostage, leaving less space to engage elsewhere.

When you find yourself a part of strained relationship, consider four steps to reconnect and repair it going forward: (more…)

I Don’t Think I’ll Vote this Year

votedI don’t know for whom to vote in November. I’m seriously stuck. I might not even vote.

Some of my friends challenge me that “not voting at all is one more vote for so-and-so!” So instead of voting FOR a candidate, vote AGAINST one.

I guess that’s one way to look at it.

I’ll kind of make up my mind, and then I read something that offsets what I was sort of finally at peace with. Then I scramble to find another redeeming quality in a candidate, and it’s shot down quickly by another source. How does one really make a decision about this?

I’m leery to even post such a semi-political blog because I’ve watched people take offense and literally “lose it” over political matters. I’m just thinking aloud, people, don’t teach me a lesson by calling me something terrible with an added lecture! Suspend judgment on this one!

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