The Nature of Confidence

Clinging to what is good and resisting what is bad is a guaranteed rollercoaster ride.

Trying to control people or circumstances to feel secure leads to more insecurity because confidence is not an external matter. As counterintuitive as it may seem, relinquishing the need for control unveils confidence.

Consider this: (more…)

Insecurity and Confidence

“I feel badly, so something needs to change.” Feeling undesirable emotion like insecurity, fear, or anger leads to this common misunderstanding that creates havoc.

In an effort to feel better, blame surfaces. There is a problem “out there” that needs changed. It is the fault of my spouse, my kids, that system, my boss, the weather, myself…

Now there are problems to be solved and issues to be fixed. (more…)

What’s the Truth?

The power of awareness changes our wellbeing.   –Dr. Dan Siegel

For the last year we’ve been dog owners, and every night, whoever is the last one upstairs puts the dog in his kennel for the night.

Every time my daughter puts him to bed, she comes downstairs to her own bed feeling badly.

“Oh mama…Zip looked so sad,” she laments, “his tail stopped wagging and he looked at me with big sad eyes.”

“How do you know he’s sad, babe? Maybe he’s relieved to be going to bed?” (more…)

How well are We Loving Each Other?

I’ve never worked for an organization that included a goal and measurable outcome of success by how well we loved each other.

But I think all organizations should have one.

Neuroscientist, Jill Bolte Taylor, woke up experiencing a stroke in 1996 and lost her ability to speak, read, talk, walk or remember her past within a span of four hours. Since she studied the brain, she gained incredible insight about how the two hemispheres function. (more…)

Why you need an On-Going Romance

Begin an office romance! Start a love affair! Set your passion in motion!

Woah, wait. What?

Google tells me that romance is a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love. So, yes, I want to begin an office romance. And while I’m at, I’m going to begin a home, wellness center, grocery store, bank and traffic romance, too.

Don Miguel Ruiz, in his book The Voice of Knowledge, says, “How do you know when you’ve mastered love? When the story you tell is an on-going romance.”

At some point it seems romance for life begins to fade somewhere between paying utility bills and heath insurance premiums. It can fade after too many political debates, a mind-numbing television show (or five), or being disappointed in the image in your mirror. (more…)