Battle of the Voices

Most of us don’t talk about the worst things our inner critic says. Because of that, we don’t hear rebuttals or learn that other people – people we admire because they seem so confident – hear the same cruel and demanding voice in their heads, too.
The inner critic wants to protect us from embarrassment, failure, rejection, or pain, but its methods are counterproductive and irrational.

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How to completely change your concept of Failure

images-1SUCCESS! GOALS! OUTCOMES! GRIT! Trendy words like these resonate with people days. “Make it happen! Dig in your heals! Show grit!” they say.

While these concepts may drive and motivate people, I can’t help wondering, Where does failure come in?

Recently a client shared that because she didn’t meet a goal she’d set for herself, she didn’t feel whole. “I don’t feel whole because I failed,” she said. An uncommon jittery demeanor surfaced and her eyes avoided mine. Normally this woman is energetic and vivacious, so her discomfort with failure obvious. (more…)

3 Ways to be Happy: Tips I learned from a Dog

img_4933I’ve never been a dog person.

I’m not comfortable having an animal in my house, on my couch, and in my car. I’m not a fan of finding little black hairs on my clothes, pillows, or god-forbid in my food. Adding extra time in my day to take an animal out to watch to make sure it empties its bladder and bowels isn’t my cup of tea. And the cost? Ignorance was bliss. (more…)

Decrease Complaining, Increase Acceptance

imagesDo you ever find yourself resisting to a lot of what is happening around you?

Resistance to what is happening can show up as complaining. Sometimes we don’t even realize we’re complaining, it’s just a conditioned response to things around us – maybe even things we can’t control like weather or traffic.

Your responses are up to you. If you want to complain, you’ll find reasons to complain. If you want to express joy, you’ll find reasons for that, too! (more…)