“We’re going to do what’s best for kids.” This cliché is often heard in education.
I began asking myself, “How do we know what’s best for kids?” How do I even know as a parent what’s best for my own kids? So when it struck me, I decided to add my voice to the whats-best-for-kids-bandwagon:
What’s best for kids is conscious adults.
I get it – it’s the era of technology. And I get it – kids love it.
But what I don’t get it is that in light of all the research about brain development, social development, and the direct link to depression and anxiety to the use of technology (namely social media), why are school leaders leading this effort of posting selfies with students on social media?
I’m confused and curious about it. (more…)
“How is this affecting me?” is often an underlying question beneath catabolic energy. The more self-centered we are, the more stress we feel. The more stress we feel, the more self-centered we are.
First, this is normal.
Second, when we become aware of this self-centered default setting inside us, we’re one step closer to increasing resilience. (more…)
The light in the women’s bathroom in the gym I workout in is still out. It’s been a week.
Using that bathroom is like trying to do business in a total solar eclipse – dark. And for some of the older folks I’ve seen working out over the noon hour, it’s a potential danger.
While the gym director pumped iron this week oblivious to the fact that I used the bathroom with the door cracked two inches in order to locate the necessities, I had an aha. Metaphorically speaking, a light bulb went on. (more…)
When someone asks where you were during the solar eclipse of 2017, what will you tell them?
This celestial event gave millions of people an opportunity to have a mindful experience.
Mindfulness is adding a pause in the moment to be present. It means intentionally taking oneself off autopilot to pay close attention with sight, sound, smell, touch, or taste.
If you watched the cast of the shadows change perception or direction, noticed the light diminish around you, used your skin to note the temperature drop, observed the sun and moon through special dark glasses, listened carefully for birds and crickets tuning into their goodnight songs, extended your lunch longer to enjoy your food for the occasion, or felt something inside you hush in appreciation or awe, then the unique natural eclipse phenomenon was met with mindfulness.
You were present. (more…)
With increasing ability to catch wind of injustice around the world today, fear and anger are sweeping the nation.
While people grapple and cope, unhealthy ways to do so are surfacing.
When a colleague gets credit for your idea, how do you respond? When your spouse spends more time with a hobby or television than with the family, how do you respond? When innocent people are hurt, how do you respond?
Knowing how we respond to one thing is a conscious glimpse in how likely we respond to all things.
Here are three unhealthy habits followed by three healthy alternatives: (more…)
Great leaders habitually check-in and assess if it’s them navigating their day or if it’s really their phone. The little pocket-pal has been called a time thief, a conversation interrupter, and a creator of co-dependency, yet it’s still given major leeway in so many of our lives. (I’m not gonna pretend it doesn’t happen to me.)
To assess whether you have been hijacked by this small device, the following list of ten scenarios should help shed some light onto the little tricks of your oh-so-smart-phone: (more…)
Being seen and heard heals people.
We all experience sadness, frustration or anger. It’s part of being human to ebb and flow in a range of emotions.
They’re gonna come. And they’re gonna go. If we don’t judge them, they’ll go even faster.
Those who can hold the tension of undesirable emotion within themselves, without overreacting as they come and go, are environment changers. They’re frequency holders. They create a path to freedom for others.
Want to up your communication game? Want to maintain your composure? Want to shift a toxic person’s energy? Good deal. Let’s go. (more…)