Insecurity and Confidence

“I feel badly, so something needs to change.” Feeling undesirable emotion like insecurity, fear, or anger leads to this common misunderstanding that creates havoc.

In an effort to feel better, blame surfaces. There is a problem “out there” that needs changed. It is the fault of my spouse, my kids, that system, my boss, the weather, myself…

Now there are problems to be solved and issues to be fixed. (more…)

Conscious Living

A common theme among high-achievers revolves around something Oprah said, “Most people are living their lives as if the destination is what it’s all about.”

Gotta get that thing, arrive at that place, achieve the outcome or goal. Once I meet “the one,” then… Once I win the championship or award, then… When I have washboard abs, then… When I have more money, then…

When A is complete, then there becomes a B…which inevitably becomes A again. It’s like a dog chasing its tail. (more…)

What’s the Truth?

The power of awareness changes our wellbeing.   –Dr. Dan Siegel

For the last year we’ve been dog owners, and every night, whoever is the last one upstairs puts the dog in his kennel for the night.

Every time my daughter puts him to bed, she comes downstairs to her own bed feeling badly.

“Oh mama…Zip looked so sad,” she laments, “his tail stopped wagging and he looked at me with big sad eyes.”

“How do you know he’s sad, babe? Maybe he’s relieved to be going to bed?” (more…)

5 Ways to Deal with your 700,000 Thoughts

People talk at 125-225 words per minute on average and can think 4x faster.

That means roughly having 500-900 thoughts per minute. So in one hour, the average person would have about 30,000-60,000 internal thoughts.

Woah.

If you like the math, in just an 8-hour workday that’s about 240,000-480,000 thoughts. All in your head. And that’s not including the ones that you actually turn into audible words or the ones that occur during the rest of your waking moments.

But have you ever really stopped to think about what you’re thinking about?

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How well are We Loving Each Other?

I’ve never worked for an organization that included a goal and measurable outcome of success by how well we loved each other.

But I think all organizations should have one.

Neuroscientist, Jill Bolte Taylor, woke up experiencing a stroke in 1996 and lost her ability to speak, read, talk, walk or remember her past within a span of four hours. Since she studied the brain, she gained incredible insight about how the two hemispheres function. (more…)

How do you know “what’s best for kids”?

“We’re going to do what’s best for kids.” This cliché is often heard in education.

I began asking myself, “How do we know what’s best for kids?” How do I even know as a parent what’s best for my own kids? So when it struck me, I decided to add my voice to the whats-best-for-kids-bandwagon:

What’s best for kids is conscious adults.

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