Humanity takes stiff-legged wobbly steps in the form of fleshy bodies and falls, scrapes its knees, gets back up, and keeps exploring.
Nobody has life figured out.
The most influential leaders in history were closest as they pointed in the direction of love, compassion and forgiveness and opened the eyes of humanity to the dignity of one other.
But as soon as they draw us closer together, we pull ourselves apart. (more…)
I haven’t felt inspired in a few weeks. Very little has moved me to greater effort, enthusiasm or creativity. A particular feeling hasn’t been awakened thats led to productive insight lately. Things have felt…ordinary.
So I didn’t write.
A subtle pressure slowly began building to produce meaningful and profound output. I didn’t feel on the cusp of any wow-factor material, and I didn’t want to sound like everybody else.
So I didn’t write. (more…)
Before humans think things about themselves – before we’re self conscious – we’re just conscious. In that state, all is well. There’s no separation being created through our stories and interpretations of events. Instinct and intuition guide and direct.
Think of babies. All is well until it’s not, and they make it known. This isn’t done not by conscious thought but by instinct, and they tell without words. (more…)
Schools have been actively engaging in the conversation about the effects of trauma in childhood, and now Oprah is informing the nation. Awareness is rising. I’m thankful.
However, the thought that keeps creeping in my mind over the past couple of months has been what about the people who don’t meet the ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experience) criteria but still feel depressed or anxious?
What happened to them? If a childhood was “normal” and needs were easily met, why are they hurting? (more…)
I was recently asked about my religious affiliation during an interview by a potential client.
The question stunned me for a second, and I didn’t know how to respond. For me, religious affiliation is irrelevant in coaching.
What I’ve learned over the past four years is that as soon as a person throws out a word to identify “what I am,” preconceived ideas flourish and then labeling, categorizing and compartmentalizing happens in a split second.
Because of that observation, I based my coaching practice on being as open and impersonal as possible.
Here’s why… (more…)
Clinging to what is good and resisting what is bad is a guaranteed rollercoaster ride.
Trying to control people or circumstances to feel secure leads to more insecurity because confidence is not an external matter. As counterintuitive as it may seem, relinquishing the need for control unveils confidence.
Consider this: (more…)
The pursuit of happiness creates continual strife to secure it.
Many try to secure the emotion by purchasing items, getting into new relationships, altering the body, or striving for affirmation and accolades.
If one of these behaviors finally secured happiness, what was lost would be found forever and nothing would spur the pursuit again.
But this is not the case.
Most of us don’t talk about the worst things our inner critic says. Because of that, we don’t hear rebuttals or learn that other people – people we admire because they seem so confident – hear the same cruel and demanding voice in their heads, too.
The inner critic wants to protect us from embarrassment, failure, rejection, or pain, but its methods are counterproductive and irrational.