3 Ways to Manage Stress on the Go

It’s midweek and you’re back into the perpetual grind. Eating lunch while working, scrolling through emails and spending a large chunk of time attending to them, sitting in meetings jockeying for floor time, traveling to on-site work, getting exercise in when possible, and then rushing home to spend some time with your family.

It’s the rat race. Rush around. Squeeze as much into a day as possible. Maybe you’re running a bit behind or rushing to keep up.

Either way, stress begins to creep in. What do you do? (more…)

Trying to Save the World can be Exhausting

I used to compromise my time, energy and emotional wellbeing on anyone in my world who vocalized they were in need. I feel deeply. I want to understand others. And I believed I could be the answer, or at the very least provide the answer, for everyone who needed saving.

Thankfully I quit.

At first it felt selfish to not take on the burdens of others and self-preserve, but over time I’ve learned that for the benefit of myself and those I do life with, it’s essential to create a win-win or just step away from the game. (more…)

Building Silence into Your Schedule is Essential

In 1964 Simon & Garfunkel brought awareness to the sound of silence. In their musical rendition, it was the loudness of silence that caught their attention: no one dared disturb the sound of silence.

In 2017, however,  there is a bombardment of noise in which silence could now be a coveted answer.

Noise is perpetuating the inability to concentrate, create, and communicate in a way that promotes community. Everyone has a private opinion which can now be aired publically.

Why make time for silence? (more…)

Do You Have the Most Important Communication Skill?

What is the last thing your loving and compassionate inner voice has spoken to you?

What? Wait. You mean there’s an inner voice that does more than point out all the ways I’m not stacking up?

That’s exactly what I’m saying. It’s very loving, in fact. It doesn’t say things to produce counterfeit confidence to puff us up to project an image, and it doesn’t say things that are harsh either.

Hearing your loving and compassionate inner voice is an essential practice for developing one of the most important communication skills: LISTENING. (more…)

You Know You’ve Peaked when Your Focus is You and not the Mountain

You know when your study of the brain has peaked when you hug your loved ones and say “oxytocin” instead of “I love you.”  –Rachel Thalmann

The brain is an amazing machine, and I’ve noticed the more that people understand the way in which it works, the more in control of themselves they feel.

I was nine the first time I skied down a mountain. I learned to snow plow – to point my toes together and put pressure on the inside edges of both skies to control my speed. This method works for beginners, particularly children. It worked again when I was 13, and kinda worked when I was 30, and by last year at 38, I wanted to learn a new way to be on skis. So this year I did…and it came with navigating myself more than navigating a mountain. (more…)

3 Crucial Steps for Increasing Empathy

You can’t fake compassion.

I mean, you can, but people feel it when you do. Disingenuous concern comes across as canned.

If meaningful connection and communication are to happen, empathy and compassion have to be real. “Me” and “You” become “We” and “Us”.

In his book Mindsight, Dr Siegel states that “feeling felt” is essential early in life as children gain insight into the vast inner sea inside them, but throughout life we continue to need such connections for a sense of vitality and wellbeing.

Vitality and wellbeing come with deep connections.

In a deeply divisive world today, bringing human beings closer to one another is vital.

There are crucial steps to increasing empathy. (more…)

Why you need an On-Going Romance

Begin an office romance! Start a love affair! Set your passion in motion!

Woah, wait. What?

Google tells me that romance is a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love. So, yes, I want to begin an office romance. And while I’m at, I’m going to begin a home, wellness center, grocery store, bank and traffic romance, too.

Don Miguel Ruiz, in his book The Voice of Knowledge, says, “How do you know when you’ve mastered love? When the story you tell is an on-going romance.”

At some point it seems romance for life begins to fade somewhere between paying utility bills and heath insurance premiums. It can fade after too many political debates, a mind-numbing television show (or five), or being disappointed in the image in your mirror. (more…)